my heart is breaking!!!  This has nothing to do with my hubby. ...  My son he is 5. Today is his 2nd day back at school. Grade 1...  Well he cried so hard about not wanting to go to school this morning and it just hurt me soooooo bad!  I wonder WHY.  He is supposed to love school.  Having fun playing with friends and so on. but not him he would be plum happy to stay home with me.  So I told him this morning that he should be proud to go to school that it is a huge accopmlishment for him and that he makes me so proud.  I told him that when he learns new things and has fun it makes me so happy for him and that I love  him so much.  Well he almost missed the bus and I got angry with him and told him that he was being silly and that he had to go to school, we ran together to the bus and I told him to be good.  I felt so bad for the little guy but I had to be stern to get him on the bus.  I didn't want to give in and let him stay home or he would do this for the rest of the year.  Any way I was walking back home holding back tears and looked up as the bus passed and he still waved bye to me. It's making me cry just typing this.

I just don't understand what it is that is bothering him....  Last year his teacher was just awful and I went through this every single day.  I prayed to my HP that he would have a good teacher this year and that he could enjoy school.  I hope that my prayers are answered.  This is so hard on me.  Thanks for listening.

Jen

I taught at a grade school for awhile. If you can, go volunteer in his room a little bit off and on. Especially now. Help him to ease into it and help other kids too. He will feel special and the kids will love you too. That will make it easier for him to make friends. There is nothing wrong with this at all. We loved it when parents came to school. Have him show you around. You can always go to the school and find out who hes teacher is and speak to her/him!! In fact I recommend it!! I always met my kids teachers and as much staff as possible. Parents also can go to lunch with their student. YOu are such a good mom. Lots of parents consider school free babysitting and they just want to get rid of their kids. love,debilyn

Jen,

I couldn't take it - not knowing what was going to happen at school. My friends and I started a very small pre-school in our homes for a year. The kids had fun. From my experience, my 3 boys were way behind the girls. They are not ready to make the break. Someone said to me, listen to your children.

Hope this helps.

Nancy

((jen)) My 5 yr old starts Kindegarten next Wednesday. I maybe in the same boat you are in next week! Change is so scarey.....no matter if we are adults or kids. I bet today you will be there waiting for him to get off the bus w/a great big hug! And maybe, just maybe, he will tell you about all the wonderful things he learned and did in school today.

Oh poor little guy...jj, so many parents go through this heartbreaking experience. And it truly is heartbreaking. It is the first time the child HAS to do something, like it or not. He'll settle in to it, and sounds like you are saying all the right things. Don't feel guilty about getting cross with him; that's part of it too. I know you just want to hold him and tell him he doesn't have to go. I know I wanted to with my younger son. Hang in there Mom. It's all part of his growing experience. Smile now, and go to the mall or somewhere nice for lunch. Smiling, Diva

Oh, how I remember those times!!! My kids grown up now, 32, 26 and 25 - but, most agony, when they were small! One child, bullied, then, I read somewhere, invite other kids to your home - it worked. Worst of all, one child was not invited to birthday party - everyone else in whole year invited..... considered bribery, lol! Just when hitting despair button, mom approached, full of remorse, she had missed 1 out. Graciously accepted late invite (phew! picking self off floor, but didnt show it, lol). Get in there - be social person - bite tongue when nec. part of being a mom!!!!! And we love it, so it costs!!!!!! Your little one lucky to have caring Mom. YOU ARE DOING GREAT!!!! Lots of love, Fora xxxx

Jen,

I don't have any advice but I am so scared because my 3 1/2 yr old starts nursery school next week.  First time doing anything socialized and he's a bit shy.  He spends alot of time with me and his little sister.

Keep us informed of his progress.

mom to 2

JJ,

I bring my niece to preschool.  Last year she went crying so hard the first day.  I cried in the car for half hour after i left.  The second day she didn't want to go at all.  The teacher picked her up from the floor crying and kicking.  I cried in my car for 20 min.  then went in to see if she was ok.   Their she was painting with all the other kids.  The teacher called clean up and she did.  Then run off to story time on the rug arm and arm with another girl.  She was fine.  But the next day and for two more weeks cried at every drop off.  I would stop by the preschool at all differnt times and she was allways fine playing.  Then one day she turned and said bye and ran into the room.  Some kids just take time.  I hope this helps.

NIKKILOU

(((((((((((JJ)))))))))))),

I have had the same experience NikkiLou spoke of with my kids. They cry and cry, and within a few minutes of my leaving they are fine. It is heard and it tears at you heart, but when you find out they are happy and fine and playing with others, the releif is so great, can you check on him after you leave?

Much Love,

hi jj....

i have taught senior and junior kindergarten for 20 years and know the beginning of the year is a huge adjustment for all kids.  teachers try their best to be sensitive to every child's needs, while at the same time not magnifying the problem.  sometimes, casualness is best for the child.  ( i often found the children who cried would usually be fine within 5 - 10 minutes of parents leaving).  if it persisted however, i often asked parents to come in for a few days to ease the transition.

but if your son didn't have a good year last year, his fears of having a repeat experience are magnified by the length of the day.  he's been away from home all summer, and perhaps with you, so september is doubly tough.

many gr 1 teachers commented that 1st term in grade one is very similar to jk.  a lot of new adjustments...........longer day, more work, more sitting, 3 recesses (with no direct supervision ... just a yard duty teacher as opposed to a classroom teacher).  all of these changes can cause severe stress in sensitive children.  

i always welcome parents to talk to me about what's going on with their child.... i have kids myself and i do the same for them.  talk to the teacher.  talk to your child.  and give him love and support and lots of time.  by october, you will see a different kid :)

lots of hugs to your little guy.  and to you too, i know what it feels to have a broken heart over my child's pain.

hugs, jo

ps...

just wanted to add, many times, it's not about not wanting to go to school....

it's about not wanting to leave mom :)

double hugs, jo

Thanks every one.

Day 3 wasn't as bad but just about.  I do plan on going on to the school on tuesday to see the teacher and talk to her.

thanks to you teachers for your perspective it sure does help!!

I only want him to have a really good year this year!!! Thats my prayer for him.

Love Jen