Hello roomies,

Perspective is a wonderful thing, but at times it can be any enemy, it all depends on how it is used.

When ever I come across something that moves me, I am excited to share it with the group. I am so excited to pass along what I have been given.

In my haste to share something I found in my "A"s literature, I may have done more harm than good. When I was looking at ir and reading it, I had a different perspective on it, than others, and they were able to see some things that I didn't, simply based on the perspective.

I have never completely altered a post I have made, just minor sugery if I reread and notice typing errors or I might add an afterthought, but never completely deleted it. I deleted what i had posted, because it felt right to do so. To take away what others saw harmful.

In this post (it was an alcoholic/addict speaking to a loved one) in reading it again after reading some replies to the message, I saw how the alcoholic was saying that someone could cure them. I know that I cannot cure my alcoholic, so I did not catch that (perspective). The three C's are so healing that to have anything which contradicts them is not healthy.

I am deeply sorry to those that read the posting.

I stated in my edit, that I will be more selective of what I share.

Dolphin,

I wasn't offended in any way.

Sometimes, I feel like we are always looking for the right thing to say and or how to say it to make them feel better.  And they live a life that appears to be about themselves and no one else.

It's so frustrating at times.

Please feel free to post anything you want and of course you are free to your own opinions.

I hope you are not offended.

mom to 2

LOL I was not offended in anyway. I read it again, and saw whay you and Jill were talking about, and stared to wonder if it would mislead a new comer, and figured taking it out would get rid of that worry.

Dolphin,

I sent you a private post too.

I'm glad you were not offended either.

Sometimes things sound different when written than if we said them in person.

I get so much help and support here.

mom to 2

Hi Dolphin , no reason to apologize , I too at one time needed to know all i could about my A - as u said perspective is a wonderful thing its what makes this program unique.  We are all entitled to do what we need to do to recover from this damn disease.  There came a time in my recovery that I knew i would never truly understand his disease anymore than he would understand just how much his behavior had affected me.

AA does have alot of good stuff , but for me again it is  still all about him. And I grew tired of trying to figure him out and started to figure out why I chose to be in this relationship which was far more rewarding. I am still in this relationship and not sorry I decided to be here.15yrs sobriety one day at a time we are making our lives better.

He is and always will be an A - and I will keep commin back because today I know that I am my biggest problem . Me and my head can take me places I never planned to go. hehe  Louise