(((((((((((((((Roomies))))))))))))))))),

I had a post here, but I guess it wasn't as beautiful as I thought it was. I don't want to post anything that makes anyone feel uneasy. I would not feel comfortable knowing that I posted somehing that is maybe harmful, and not good. In the future I will be more selective as to what I put on here that when it doesn't come from my own mind.

Sorry to those that I bothered. I will try not to let it happen again.

Much Love,

-- Edited by Dolphin123 at 16:02, 2005-08-27

You might want to read Al-Anons  3 View of Alcoholism.  the letter from the Alcoholic to his family.  

Abby,

I have read it, but I don't have a copy of it with me at this moment, I thought that this was different, but along the same line as "The Letter from the Alcoholic".

When reading this, I feel uneasy. It threatens the 3C's. This makes me think eventually I can cure it, and I can't!

I agree with Jill here.

I have reached the point where I accept that nothing I do or say will stop the drinking.  Not being sweet, loving and understanding or being nasty and name calling.  And you know we have tried both ways more than once--and does it help--NO!

They will drink and do drugs because they are addicts.  We can't change that.

mom to 2

dolphin, I can appreciate your post . I can see that an alcoholic must have those thousands of masks to protct what is really there. As do we. Though I don't feel "I" can change the man or his inner doubts. I do feel loving compassion does have it's worth in their feeling safe enough to try for recovery if they so choose, be a jerk at times and feel they are still loved unconditionally.. Granted, their are A's that are abusive and down right nuts that reaching out and reassurance would have no purpose.. I did feel it gave some understanding of an alcoholic and the depths of their problem. For me, I can keep these things in mind as they are spelled out in your post and maybe not respond with anger sometime. Thanks Take what ya like, right? Christy

Dolphin, I think it was good food for thoughts. In posting my thoughts I didn't mean to negate yours. It got me to thinking, and that's good. Thanks for bringing it up.   Jill

Jill,

You brought a very good point, my worry was that a new comer might read that and get confused. There was a lot of good in the reading, but it was misleading.