Anger is a normal emotion and all of us feel angry every now and then. If
you use it well, anger can be the fuel that drives effective and useful
action. But if you use it badly, it can result in needless pain, destruction
and frustration.
How you express your anger is especially important if you have children
around, because whether you like it or not, they will use you as a role
model as they learn how to handle their own strong feelings.
Even if you were raised around people who routinely blew up and lost control
of themselves whenever they got mad at each other, you can learn to do it
differently yourself.
When you feel that your rights are being ignored or that someone is treating
you with disrespect, assert yourself calmly, politely, but firmly. When you
do, you will be giving your children a wonderful example to follow and you
will feel good about your ability to take control of your feelings instead
of letting them take control of you.
Dolphin123 said
Aug 22, 2005
Thanks for the post Peggy, sometimes I feel guilty for getting angry. Then I ask myself why do I feel guilty. I wouldn't feel guilty for any other feeling. It is all in how I react.
Much Love,
rosie light shines said
Aug 22, 2005
hey peggy, i think god/ hp gave us anger because there ARE folks who are going to abuse/disrespect et, al and "healthy anger" is NECESSARY....stuffing it like i did for SO long only got me sickand out of control raging until i could discharge all that "stuffed" anger as well as the NEW anger that life can bring/cause you......
i know if i am more angry than "current" stimulus deserves, i know it is OLD anger and i get my tennis racquet and beat the chair till i am exhausted and i feel discharged.......AS i thaw out old / stuffed emotions, i am finding i had a TON of unresolved ANGER OUTRAGE....adn TONS of grief....one by one, i am discharging these emotions so i can get up to "current" and than work the steps, et al to keep it on a "one day at a time basis" thank you for this great share, i needed to see this.....peace rosie
Maria123 said
Aug 22, 2005
(((((Peggy)))))
What a wonderful share! As a child who lived with an angry man, it was tough. I had no good role models.
It breaks my heart to see people treating other people (especially spouses) so badly.
Anger is a normal emotion and all of us feel angry every now and then. If
you use it well, anger can be the fuel that drives effective and useful
action. But if you use it badly, it can result in needless pain, destruction
and frustration.
How you express your anger is especially important if you have children
around, because whether you like it or not, they will use you as a role
model as they learn how to handle their own strong feelings.
Even if you were raised around people who routinely blew up and lost control
of themselves whenever they got mad at each other, you can learn to do it
differently yourself.
When you feel that your rights are being ignored or that someone is treating
you with disrespect, assert yourself calmly, politely, but firmly. When you
do, you will be giving your children a wonderful example to follow and you
will feel good about your ability to take control of your feelings instead
of letting them take control of you.
Thanks for the post Peggy, sometimes I feel guilty for getting angry. Then I ask myself why do I feel guilty. I wouldn't feel guilty for any other feeling. It is all in how I react.
Much Love,
hey peggy, i think god/ hp gave us anger because there ARE folks who are going to abuse/disrespect et, al and "healthy anger" is NECESSARY....stuffing it like i did for SO long only got me sickand out of control raging until i could discharge all that "stuffed" anger as well as the NEW anger that life can bring/cause you......
i know if i am more angry than "current" stimulus deserves, i know it is OLD anger and i get my tennis racquet and beat the chair till i am exhausted and i feel discharged.......AS i thaw out old / stuffed emotions, i am finding i had a TON of unresolved ANGER OUTRAGE....adn TONS of grief....one by one, i am discharging these emotions so i can get up to "current" and than work the steps, et al to keep it on a "one day at a time basis" thank you for this great share, i needed to see this.....peace rosie
(((((Peggy)))))
What a wonderful share! As a child who lived with an angry man, it was tough. I had no good role models.
It breaks my heart to see people treating other people (especially spouses) so badly.
Keep posting,
love ya,
Maria