Thanks everyone for your responses that is why I come here to know I am not alone or crazy.
Lildee a special message to you, I understand so much about building resentments towards my daughter, my son and I get along great, although he isn't perfect. The only thing I can suggest from reading your post is that discussing your daughters behaviour with her doctor and her may help. He may just say that she is normal but he may agree with you that something isn't right.
However, just remember that unfortunetly our children live by example, this is very clear to me because all the crap I get from my kids come straight from my mouth. And their impatients and mood swings mimic what I have. It scares me that I am teaching them how to cope with problems. That is what scares me the most in that they learn from us and what great role models we are, an a and a screaming moody banchee. No wonder my kids drive me nuts they act just like their parents.
Anyway thanks for all the experience and messages, I do feel inspired, and any ideas on what has worked for people to turn their moods around and stop teaching my kids to be so snappy like me would be greatly appreciated.
Love Ya All
Holly
Carol said
Aug 11, 2005
((((Holly)))) Keep coming back, that is what helped me. The more I go to meetings the more I learn about myself and the more willing I am to do something different. I use the slogan How Important Is It a lot, and I am always asking my HP to help me. The more meetings I go to the happier I am and it just seemed to happen less and less. When you go to meetings you always come out feeling better. I also, talk to program people lots which helps me, to verbally get out my frustrations be talking to program people I don't seem to take things out on the ones I love. Do something nice for yourself, even if it is a 5 minute bubble bath, I had to become important. In other words I have to focus on ME.
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Thanks everyone for your responses that is why I come here to know I am not alone or crazy.
Lildee a special message to you, I understand so much about building resentments towards my daughter, my son and I get along great, although he isn't perfect. The only thing I can suggest from reading your post is that discussing your daughters behaviour with her doctor and her may help. He may just say that she is normal but he may agree with you that something isn't right.
However, just remember that unfortunetly our children live by example, this is very clear to me because all the crap I get from my kids come straight from my mouth. And their impatients and mood swings mimic what I have. It scares me that I am teaching them how to cope with problems. That is what scares me the most in that they learn from us and what great role models we are, an a and a screaming moody banchee. No wonder my kids drive me nuts they act just like their parents.
Anyway thanks for all the experience and messages, I do feel inspired, and any ideas on what has worked for people to turn their moods around and stop teaching my kids to be so snappy like me would be greatly appreciated.
Love Ya All
Holly
((((Holly)))) Keep coming back, that is what helped me. The more I go to meetings the more I learn about myself and the more willing I am to do something different. I use the slogan How Important Is It a lot, and I am always asking my HP to help me. The more meetings I go to the happier I am and it just seemed to happen less and less. When you go to meetings you always come out feeling better. I also, talk to program people lots which helps me, to verbally get out my frustrations be talking to program people I don't seem to take things out on the ones I love. Do something nice for yourself, even if it is a 5 minute bubble bath, I had to become important. In other words I have to focus on ME.