Guess it really ticks some people off to see others doing well.  I don't care.  I will do what i need to do for me.  For that is what Al anon is about.  I will seek MY HP.  I will submitt to my HP.  I know i can't be anyone else's HP.  I know that HP will show people what they need to see when they are ready to recieve.  I am going to work a 12 step book and meditations for adult children of alcoholics. May God bless everyone working the program and putting it into their hearts.  I can say God can't I? The serenity prayer does.  Well, really don't care how anyone else FEELS about it.  He's my HP.  Hope all is going well for all of you even if one of you dumped on me.  We're all sick puppies that's why we sought out alanon.

Take care and may God bless each and everyone.

Of course you can say God....   Without Him, we wouldn't have ANY 12-step program or others brought into our lives, OR any resources available to us to help us through at times.  He gets ALL the credit-  It's not about us at all.  

Take Care and may God always continue to bless you.

Thank you for sharing, I feel like I'm struggling with focusing on myself today (yesterday I was stronger), I know I will have ups & downs. 

I am sorry anyone in the program ever dumped on you ~ that's not what the program is about~ we are all just human. 

I am happy & thrilled you are doing well.  I don't know why others wouldn't be happy for someone else doing well - maybe they are suffereing from jealousy.

I wouldn't be alive without God, none of us would exist, I prefer to say God than HP.

Thanks for sharing your strong resolve, I need to hear it today! 

Hello hvnly,

((((((((((((((Hvnly))))))))))) I first would like to point out that I just replied to David's post above that talks about some hurt I had with people in alanon. I hope you read it to see about my personal experience with one situation I had when I was new.

I think it is great you are using a book to do your steps :) I just love my Paths to Recovery book. It has helped me so much. One thing I learned here is that Hurt people/ Hurt people. I have hurt people here myself. We are only human and none of us hopefully don't do it intentionally. I just love that the alanon program teaches us how to make amends with people. Not for them, but for us. I learned alot about how to go about this in my Paths to Recovery book too :) It doesn't necessarily mean talking to a person either.

Gosh, I tell people I don't even hardly remember the first 3 months of being a member here due to how much my life and my soul was in crisis. I have no idea how I was like or anyone else. All I know is I am glad I stuck with the program. I really don't know where I would be without these alanon skills/tools I have learned.

I do like this message board too :) I am glad to see you using it and hope to keep up with you here too.

your friend in recovery, cdb :)

Thank you everyone that has replied.  And thank you who felt it didn't apply and let it fly.  I just want to keep the focus where it belongs but I see I still need to work on ignoring others that aren't doing it.  It's hard when i see what appears to be phoniness and an underlieing level of well what i think isn't so nice out there.  But I have learned that it may take years but eventually everyone notices what i notice early on.  Breathe.  It will get taken care of when it's time.  Maybe it's my job to pray if i see it before everyone else does.  Everyone needs someone praying for them.  LOL ok so I'm just musing here.  It's where I'm at.

Thanks all.

Laura