I am grateful reading the posts & responses today, it really helps a lot to share.  All of us have experienced similiar things, in one way or another w/ the "A" in our lives.  It runs in my family & many of my friends & b/f's have been addicts as well.

I'm nearly 40 & I am realizing AGAIN that only I can save myself or know what is best for me.  It is so convoluted for those of us that love them.  I guess everyone simply has to go through their own lives to get to the next point, wtvr that may be.

So far everything my step-dad has done, it's all been the same.  I'm not feeling any contrition or change, so until that time, I really cannot allow myself to be interested in what he has to say.  Besides, I'm a little paranoid, now that he's in meetings, he may just be parroting what he hears. 

I have to prtoect myself & realize it is more important for me to listen to me.   

Thank you everybody for your support.  I feel hopeful today.

I'm nearly 40 & I am realizing AGAIN that only I can save myself or know what is best for me. Those words, Alanon and your HP can take you home to the place where love of self lives within :) Funny how it works..you helped me today with that reminder, thank you! Christy (Cjo)

"I have to protect myself & realize it is more important for me to listen to me."

Thanks that was just the reminder i needed too.  My ex-a is driving me mad, he has a programme and for various reasons i have to detach from him because he keeps hurting me. But he just keeps trying to suck me back in and question my programme.  U just reminded me to not listen to what drivel he has to offer and keep the focus on me. 

Wed. July 27

Dear Kitty

YOU GO GIRL.............   Keep Coming BAck !!!!

Yours in Recovery

Kathy570