sorry I haven't posted in awhile, I had my baby 6wks ago and have been very busy. How is everyone? My A was good for awhile, he didn't go out all the time, and we would go together, but now he is blaming me for not going anywhere, and just being generally miserable. He has told me about 3 times recently that he hates me and doesn't want to be with me. Then, he says he is sorry, and forgets it, well I can't forget it. And it's not ok, but you can't tell him that. he is going out tonight b/c I told him to. I think there is something wrong with me, I don't know why it bugs me so much that he goes to the bar! It shouldn't bug me this much. And to make it all worse, he found a letter I wrote a LONG time ago saying he went to the bar too much and etc.. I told him that we had been fighting and that was my way of venting, I don't even remember what it said, well now he won't let it go! everything is always my fault, I am always the bitch! I am so fed up! I don't even care anymore if he goes, well that's not true, I do care, I don't want him to go, but I can not tolerate him like this! why isn't he content to stay home? I am not sure I want to stay with him, but I can't leave, and I don't know why. It's like he can do whatever he wants, and I will stay, and it makes me feel hopeless. I don't know why I can't leave, or why I let him going out bug me so much. well thank you for listening. I am glad to be back again!
Leah
bcanuck said
Jun 7, 2005
welcome back, Leah. Congratulations on the birth of your baby. Wow, where do you find the time to look at a computer, let alone post!
My A and I got into a big argument a few years ago, and he agreed to do his drinking at home (well most of it) and the more he drinks the more I regret making this agreement with him. What I'm trying to say is I don't like it if he drinks at home or away, cause he's drinking.
I too get the "you're no fun anymore" etc, but I just shrug and smile, cause I know I'm doing better inside and that is what matters really.
Keep coming back, when you can, and enjoy that precious little miracle.
Bonnie
jj said
Jun 8, 2005
congrats on the birth of your baby!!!
I know it was after the birth of my first baby that my husbands drinking became a huge problem for me!!!! I was alone and doing it all alone. OH resentment!!!I had then. Well all I can share is this. When I had my daughter 2 years later and really just enjoyed my kids I forgot about him and put all of my focus on the kids it seemed to not bother me so much. I really enjoyed having a baby again and knew how fast it would go by. My son and I were the besst of buddys and my daughter is alot of fun!! I am blessed with the kids.
The kids grow up so fast and before you know it they are big and independant. I truely love the baby stage!!!
sorry I haven't posted in awhile, I had my baby 6wks ago and have been very busy. How is everyone? My A was good for awhile, he didn't go out all the time, and we would go together, but now he is blaming me for not going anywhere, and just being generally miserable. He has told me about 3 times recently that he hates me and doesn't want to be with me. Then, he says he is sorry, and forgets it, well I can't forget it. And it's not ok, but you can't tell him that. he is going out tonight b/c I told him to. I think there is something wrong with me, I don't know why it bugs me so much that he goes to the bar! It shouldn't bug me this much. And to make it all worse, he found a letter I wrote a LONG time ago saying he went to the bar too much and etc.. I told him that we had been fighting and that was my way of venting, I don't even remember what it said, well now he won't let it go! everything is always my fault, I am always the bitch! I am so fed up! I don't even care anymore if he goes, well that's not true, I do care, I don't want him to go, but I can not tolerate him like this! why isn't he content to stay home? I am not sure I want to stay with him, but I can't leave, and I don't know why. It's like he can do whatever he wants, and I will stay, and it makes me feel hopeless. I don't know why I can't leave, or why I let him going out bug me so much. well thank you for listening. I am glad to be back again!
Leah
welcome back, Leah. Congratulations on the birth of your baby. Wow, where do you find the time to look at a computer, let alone post!
My A and I got into a big argument a few years ago, and he agreed to do his drinking at home (well most of it) and the more he drinks the more I regret making this agreement with him. What I'm trying to say is I don't like it if he drinks at home or away, cause he's drinking.
I too get the "you're no fun anymore" etc, but I just shrug and smile, cause I know I'm doing better inside and that is what matters really.
Keep coming back, when you can, and enjoy that precious little miracle.
Bonnie
congrats on the birth of your baby!!!
I know it was after the birth of my first baby that my husbands drinking became a huge problem for me!!!! I was alone and doing it all alone. OH resentment!!!I had then. Well all I can share is this. When I had my daughter 2 years later and really just enjoyed my kids I forgot about him and put all of my focus on the kids it seemed to not bother me so much. I really enjoyed having a baby again and knew how fast it would go by. My son and I were the besst of buddys and my daughter is alot of fun!! I am blessed with the kids.
The kids grow up so fast and before you know it they are big and independant. I truely love the baby stage!!!
Have fun with your baby!!!
Love in recovery JJ