Recently I have put on some weight that is bothering me to death. Alot of people say I look good with the weight on but I don't like the weight. I ave a low self esteem. I been eatting sugar which I shouldn't be. So today I am keeping the weight thing in mind and I am not eating any snaks at work today. My husband likes the weight I put on. I put in the places that guys like to see the weight.

Well I guess I should be happy that I put on the weight on in the right plces. Well I just had to write it out to get off my mind.

Becky

LoL,

   Sorry I'm not laughing at you, its just I would give for people to say my extra weight was in all the right places.  It is important for you to feel good about you but only if you are healthy and feeling good.  I have a close relative who is obsessed with her weight and suffered from eating disorders, it was scary and she isn't ever happy with her weight, that is why you should be sure to learn to love yourself no matter how you look.

Holly

Your right. I guess wehn I look at my self I think I am fat, but I don't have an eating disorder thank godness. I just don't like to see the weight on me, but of course when I walking down the street the guys love it.

Hi Becky

 

I am sure that you look fabulous.

You are very very thin and the weight was needed.

 

That said when I first got married and up until 3 years ago I was thin myself and never wanted to gain an ounce.

Due to the stress of my life I have coped with food..sigh...

Another thing to change

 

Love ya

 

megan

I totally understand about the weight issue.  I am such a freak about my weight.  I think when it boils down to it, it's due to my low self esteem too.  I think deep in my brain somewhere, i think that if i have the ideal body, which nobody does, I will get the kind of attention i am always striving for. problem is, i get the wrong kind of attention.  Working on my ammends to myself, that is part of my ammends.  Not to starve my body of food or water, not to beat it up with too much physical labor, or not enough for that matter. but most of all not to be so critical of myself.  It's crazy to for me to think i'm overweight, when everyone else says, trina, gain some weight. talk about an obsession!  But you know, i guess i can use that addiction of my own to understand a little more about my a's addictions.  Cause when it boils down to it, your husband or any of us for that matter are seeing whats inside, not what's outside, and that's what really counts

lots of love,

trina

You hit the nail on the head. When I worry about my wieght I do believe it is lack of self esteem. I do get attention but it isn't always the right kind. I am starting to think to my self a little at a time that I look good, it is hard to tell myself that, but I am trying.

With my weight I had to look at my food addiction to medicate the pain. After I took a look at it, it was a lot easier to be conscious of it and not eat so much. And the weight came off.

Nancy

Hi,

 I read your posts and I pray for you that you are going to meetings alot of them. a man doe not make you wrothy if you get him or you keep him or if he thinks you are pretty or not . it is about you how you feel .i am trying to be careful , you seem very young and I know that is part of it but do your self a big favor get a sponosr and work the steps for you not  Rick or any one sele but you for you . do you know why cause you matter.

you seem to  need a lot of attention I ma not judgeing you cause I am one of those too and I can spot it and I know i have to keep God first and go to meetings and have a sponsor and work it or before i know it I am in another toxic relationship

after i left my ex 3 years ago i have gotten in Alanon and i stay out of relationships because I know i am too needy and not well enough to have a good one be careful and look out for you

dori