I posted the other night about how hubby and I had gone to a friends and it ended up with me not ever wanting to go out like that again.
Well I was upset and angry about what had happend and I don't think that I made the situation clear.
Hubby had gone a week with out getting drunk and I had had reservations about going because he was doing so well and I was doing so good. I didn't want one night to ruen it and of course it did!!!
He went from being loving and caring again to that old funk and the stand offish grum that only wants to hide in the disease!!!
I have no intention of isolating my self at all. I am doing good with my program and my desire to keep moving forward is larger than anything he could do to pull me back!!!
I love to get out and see my friends!! I love to be out and about period!!
The thing that I have decuided is that I will not be going to things like that with hubby. Last week he wanted his family more than the booze and it is just too painful to watch him drink.
I am still good and the me that I want to be for right now.
Isolating myself will not do me any good and it won't do my kids any good!! And my focus is on us.
Love ya all JJ
nycbt said
Jun 7, 2005
You got the right idea don't isolate your self you will only make yourself more uptight because you will feel trapped. That is not a fun feeling.
TLC2 said
Jun 7, 2005
Way to go jj !! You have a level head on those shoulders, Love ya, TLC
nmike said
Jun 7, 2005
JJ,
You are here at the board so you aren't isolating. I think that is part of the A's unconscious strategy. When you don't talk to other people then you don't get a good perspective. At least with my recovering A, he can play God and all knowing and important. If I mingle then I have some answers too!
I posted the other night about how hubby and I had gone to a friends and it ended up with me not ever wanting to go out like that again.
Well I was upset and angry about what had happend and I don't think that I made the situation clear.
Hubby had gone a week with out getting drunk and I had had reservations about going because he was doing so well and I was doing so good. I didn't want one night to ruen it and of course it did!!!
He went from being loving and caring again to that old funk and the stand offish grum that only wants to hide in the disease!!!
I have no intention of isolating my self at all. I am doing good with my program and my desire to keep moving forward is larger than anything he could do to pull me back!!!
I love to get out and see my friends!! I love to be out and about period!!
The thing that I have decuided is that I will not be going to things like that with hubby. Last week he wanted his family more than the booze and it is just too painful to watch him drink.
I am still good and the me that I want to be for right now.
Isolating myself will not do me any good and it won't do my kids any good!! And my focus is on us.
Love ya all
JJ
JJ,
You are here at the board so you aren't isolating. I think that is part of the A's unconscious strategy. When you don't talk to other people then you don't get a good perspective. At least with my recovering A, he can play God and all knowing and important. If I mingle then I have some answers too!
In support,
Nancy