I am having a really hard time with patience lately. As many of you know I am in the process of buying 1st house. Everything was going very well until late last week when we hit a snag for closing. Closing got pushed back 3 days. There is an issue with the appraisal. There is much concern over this due to the fact that we were told everything was OK with the apprasial. The lending agent has been dancing around the issue making it seem as there is something very suspicious. So tentatively our closing is on Friday of this week.
Along with all of this issue for the closing I have discovered that we have noone to help us move. I will be doing a majority of the work by myself. My husband is not able to get time off from work. I want to get into my new house as soon as possible. Part of that reason is the excitement of having my own home. The other is that the longer I am where I am the more money I have to pay out that I could be putting into my own home. If we dont close and cant move this weekend it looks like we wont be able to move until mid July due to other committments. So I will be paying rent and a mortgage which I cannot afford both. Add insult to injury this week - I am sick on top of all of this. I know that I am sick because I am internalizing stress.
I am trying to surrender to HP today and everyday. It has been very hard because I just feel so very overwhelmed by everything taking different turns. I know that it will all turn out the way it is supposed to in the time frame in which it is supposed to. I am trying not to get on a pity pot. I am trying to stay focused in the days activities without getting in my head. I knew I needed to put this out there for my own benefit to take it out of my head. Also a reminder to open my hands and head so that I can hear HP's messages to me today.
Karen
oceanbabe said
Jun 1, 2005
First of all ((HUGS)) to you Karen...I'm sorry your day has been so rotten. I have four friends who are all trying to close on houses right now and it has been nothing but a pain for all of them. So I can understand your frustration to a degree. Do know it will all get better soon and things will work out the way they should. It can't rain forever!
Doreanmsloan said
Jun 2, 2005
Dear Karen:
After reading your post, I was thinking about what is going on in my household these days, and funny enough we are going thru the same changes as you, so I can relate, and send you many ((((huggs)))). We are realstate brokers my husband and myself, and have just sold our home, as we plan on relocating to florida. We are now living in Virginia. The stress of selling and contracts are difficult enough,when you don't know what is going to happen- appraizers,loan's banks- so many things can go wrong and we internilize doom. As I go thru the sale process with all of my husbands clients,I know first hand how stressing it is. When it is our house that is on the block for sale, it gets even more difficult, because it is a personnal issue. We close on the 20th of June, and will rent back for a month or two. Karen, you will never believe what happened to us: Verizon wireless came thru our street, and decided to put fiber optic cable!, so they needed to dig up everyones lawns> I said, please don't ruin the garden, because this house is already sold, I spoke to the general manager, and he made sure that every bit of dirt and sod was placed exactly as they found it. See, I stressed out over something that was beyond my control, and it worked out just fine. What did I learn? I learned that I have to let it go, and things will fall into place as they where ment to regardless of my over reaction. We are still in limbo, as the florida state boards of licensing is very slow, so, we might be homeless, with 13 thousand pounds of furniture- and now where to put it!, but I keep thinking what is the worst case senario? so we rent a place for a month or two, maybe a hotel, sure I could use the rest, and would not have to clean for a few months. I wish you calmness with your closing, and that you can get some rest, it will all be over with before you know it, and you will be enjoying your new home. Best of luck. Dorean
Hiya Everyone,
I am having a really hard time with patience lately. As many of you know I am in the process of buying 1st house. Everything was going very well until late last week when we hit a snag for closing. Closing got pushed back 3 days. There is an issue with the appraisal. There is much concern over this due to the fact that we were told everything was OK with the apprasial. The lending agent has been dancing around the issue making it seem as there is something very suspicious. So tentatively our closing is on Friday of this week.
Along with all of this issue for the closing I have discovered that we have noone to help us move. I will be doing a majority of the work by myself. My husband is not able to get time off from work. I want to get into my new house as soon as possible. Part of that reason is the excitement of having my own home. The other is that the longer I am where I am the more money I have to pay out that I could be putting into my own home. If we dont close and cant move this weekend it looks like we wont be able to move until mid July due to other committments. So I will be paying rent and a mortgage which I cannot afford both. Add insult to injury this week - I am sick on top of all of this. I know that I am sick because I am internalizing stress.
I am trying to surrender to HP today and everyday. It has been very hard because I just feel so very overwhelmed by everything taking different turns. I know that it will all turn out the way it is supposed to in the time frame in which it is supposed to. I am trying not to get on a pity pot. I am trying to stay focused in the days activities without getting in my head. I knew I needed to put this out there for my own benefit to take it out of my head. Also a reminder to open my hands and head so that I can hear HP's messages to me today.
Karen
Dear Karen:
After reading your post, I was thinking about what is going on in my household these days, and funny enough we are going thru the same changes as you, so I can relate, and send you many ((((huggs)))). We are realstate brokers my husband and myself, and have just sold our home, as we plan on relocating to florida. We are now living in Virginia. The stress of selling and contracts are difficult enough,when you don't know what is going to happen- appraizers,loan's banks- so many things can go wrong and we internilize doom. As I go thru the sale process with all of my husbands clients,I know first hand how stressing it is. When it is our house that is on the block for sale, it gets even more difficult, because it is a personnal issue. We close on the 20th of June, and will rent back for a month or two. Karen, you will never believe what happened to us: Verizon wireless came thru our street, and decided to put fiber optic cable!, so they needed to dig up everyones lawns> I said, please don't ruin the garden, because this house is already sold, I spoke to the general manager, and he made sure that every bit of dirt and sod was placed exactly as they found it. See, I stressed out over something that was beyond my control, and it worked out just fine. What did I learn? I learned that I have to let it go, and things will fall into place as they where ment to regardless of my over reaction. We are still in limbo, as the florida state boards of licensing is very slow, so, we might be homeless, with 13 thousand pounds of furniture- and now where to put it!, but I keep thinking what is the worst case senario? so we rent a place for a month or two, maybe a hotel, sure I could use the rest, and would not have to clean for a few months. I wish you calmness with your closing, and that you can get some rest, it will all be over with before you know it, and you will be enjoying your new home. Best of luck. Dorean