A couple who I have worked with for quite a fewwyears are retiring and moving south.

My company is having a retirement party for them June 4. Today the girls at work where talking about it and told me they would love me to come but know I won't go. I asked why and they said unless it is something for the kids or the schools, no one can drag you out.

I thought about it, I go to awards dinners with the kids, and school functions, but I haven't even gone to a Wedding in years. My husband was going to get drunk and I would be miserable so I just sent a gift and declined. He has gone to affairs with his family, but the kids and I do not go. Basically I don't go anywhere with adults.

I think I shocked everyone this afternoon, I told the girl running it I will be there and paid my share. A few of my coworkers where busting chops about me not showing up. One is even kidding that she might start a pool. I didn't realize I had become that unsocial.

I live in sweat clothes and jeans and wear my hair either in a pony tail or with sunglasses on my head as a headband. I don't even have my own makeup anymore. On the rare occasion I wear it I borrow from my daughters.

I am going to buy myself something nice to wear (okay old habits die hard, I need something to wear to graduation and the Senior awards banquet anyway). I am going to treat myself to a hair cut and I am going to go out with my coworkers like a grownup.

While I love every second I spend with my kids, and I don't intend to stop doing things with them. It isn't good for them or me if I am hiding out with them.

                                          Love Jeannie

Good for you - I know exactly what you mean. Isolation is one of the worst problems those who are married to A's have - whether to avoid being out in public with him drunk, or just because we don't have the energy or "party spirit". Get a facial and a manicure, too, why not?

Hi Jeannie,

I am so impressed with your new attitude!! What a wonderful gift that you are giving to yourself and you are changing the things that you can change.  I think that you will be an inspiration to your children, when they see that you are taking care of yourself, and having a good time.  I think that you are on your way, and good things will be coming your way.  Keep up the good work, and have a great time!! I really support you, and I am proud of you!!

Love & Hugs

Good for you! I am on guard against isolating, and when I let my guard down I find I am slipping into my own hiding world. Have fun at the event. (A good haircut is a treat).

Splendid Jeannie! And while you're at it, remember to enjoy yourself!! With love, Diva

Go for it girl!! One little step in taking care of yourself, keep up the good work!! Have a blast!! Love TLC