gawd...I feel like I am the only one around here with out kids. And then that makes me feel like my situation is very isolated....even more so. Makes me think how can anyone possibly relate? How can I relate to folks going through this with kids? Makes me feel incrediably alone in this....cuz when my A is "gone" I am truly alone. At least for those with kids, there are the kids. count your blessings.
mariposa said
May 26, 2005
Hi, I don't have kids.
Christy said
May 26, 2005
Girlskates..
I have one son at home (15) and I still get lonely. He's not my life partner, my husband, my sould mate..whatever you want to call it. You're talking about a relationship between a man and woman. Even those of us that have kids still miss that and can certainly relate to the lonliness. My son can't replace what is lacking in my marriage. It's two totally different things. So, what we are missing/lacking is the same thing :). Don't feel like you are alone.
Christy
dot said
May 26, 2005
Hi Girlskates - I'm another one who has no kids and the a in my life whom I always loved died 20 years after our divorce - still active in his disease.
I have a family of choice in Al-Anon and AA and I never have to be alone.
I've made life long friends in the program ad we keep in touch with each other even when we're miles apart.
The program works in all areas of our lives. Keep coming back.
Love and hugs - Dot
DanaAngel said
May 26, 2005
Girlskates,
I don't have kids either, and at this point (I'm 44) chances are pretty slim to null I will have kids, unless I adopt at some point.
Dana
jo4 said
May 27, 2005
hi girlskates.......
perspective is just a state of mind. if you look for differences you will find them. if you look for similiarities you will find them.
i was without kids for the first 16 years of my relationship with my a. however having kids, only made life more difficult (without alanon), trust me.
having said that, the feelings remain the same. with or without kids.
the feelings of isolation, lonliness and insanity. the same.
hope you find what you're looking for, keep coming back.
jo
holly123 said
May 27, 2005
Girlskate,
Hi there I do have kids but believe me there are many a time when someone without kids shares and they hit the nail on the head as to what I'm going through. Believe it or not we all suffer from the same stuff, maybe it comes in different forms and maybe those of us with kids have one more aspect to look at but doesn't mean that we won't find ourselves in your shares or that you won't find some great experience and be able to relate to ours.
We are glad you are here and defently want to hear from you and believe me we can relate.
Keep coming back and sharing.
Holly
Jeannie said
May 27, 2005
Hi Girlskates,
I do have kids, but feel like I don't have a husband. Lonliness is lonliness, and while my children keep my house from being empty they are not my mate.
I can't expect them to be a substitute for him.
It is horrible to feel lonely in a house full of people.
Alcoholism holds us prisoner (if we let it) no matter what our circumstances are. It doesn't matter if we are old or young, male or female, married or dating and A or with or without children. When a person you love suffers from this horrible disease you feel real pain, and that makes us the same in a way that none of us wanted.
Don't feel left out here, your opinions and feelings are very important. Even if any of us have no experience in certain situations the feeling we have are real. We can all learn from and help and support each other no matter what are life situations are. Your input and opinions are valuable and very helpful and I know that I can learn form them, as I hope you can learn from mine.
I count my blessings every day for my children, but it hurts so much that my husband is so sick that he cannot share those blessing with me.
Love Jeannie
cabecka said
May 28, 2005
Hi GirlSkates-
No kids here- just my four legged beasties. One thing we can all relate to- kids or no, married or not, heterosexual or homosexual, adult child.... is living with the disease of alcoholism. Please keep coming back- glad you're here!
Cabecka
nycbt said
Jun 2, 2005
Hi
I don't have any kids. I have know my husband for five years, I dated him for 5 yrs and just got married. It is very hard to relate with people that have kids.
Hi, I don't have kids.
Girlskates..
I have one son at home (15) and I still get lonely. He's not my life partner, my husband, my sould mate..whatever you want to call it. You're talking about a relationship between a man and woman. Even those of us that have kids still miss that and can certainly relate to the lonliness. My son can't replace what is lacking in my marriage. It's two totally different things. So, what we are missing/lacking is the same thing :). Don't feel like you are alone.
Christy
Girlskates,
I don't have kids either, and at this point (I'm 44) chances are pretty slim to null I will have kids, unless I adopt at some point.
Dana
hi girlskates.......
perspective is just a state of mind. if you look for differences you will find them. if you look for similiarities you will find them.
i was without kids for the first 16 years of my relationship with my a. however having kids, only made life more difficult (without alanon), trust me.
having said that, the feelings remain the same. with or without kids.
the feelings of isolation, lonliness and insanity. the same.
hope you find what you're looking for, keep coming back.
jo
Girlskate,
Hi there I do have kids but believe me there are many a time when someone without kids shares and they hit the nail on the head as to what I'm going through. Believe it or not we all suffer from the same stuff, maybe it comes in different forms and maybe those of us with kids have one more aspect to look at but doesn't mean that we won't find ourselves in your shares or that you won't find some great experience and be able to relate to ours.
We are glad you are here and defently want to hear from you and believe me we can relate.
Keep coming back and sharing.
Holly
Hi Girlskates,
I do have kids, but feel like I don't have a husband. Lonliness is lonliness, and while my children keep my house from being empty they are not my mate.
I can't expect them to be a substitute for him.
It is horrible to feel lonely in a house full of people.
Alcoholism holds us prisoner (if we let it) no matter what our circumstances are. It doesn't matter if we are old or young, male or female, married or dating and A or with or without children. When a person you love suffers from this horrible disease you feel real pain, and that makes us the same in a way that none of us wanted.
Don't feel left out here, your opinions and feelings are very important. Even if any of us have no experience in certain situations the feeling we have are real. We can all learn from and help and support each other no matter what are life situations are. Your input and opinions are valuable and very helpful and I know that I can learn form them, as I hope you can learn from mine.
I count my blessings every day for my children, but it hurts so much that my husband is so sick that he cannot share those blessing with me.
Love Jeannie
Hi GirlSkates-
No kids here- just my four legged beasties. One thing we can all relate to- kids or no, married or not, heterosexual or homosexual, adult child.... is living with the disease of alcoholism. Please keep coming back- glad you're here!
Cabecka
Hi
I don't have any kids. I have know my husband for five years, I dated him for 5 yrs and just got married. It is very hard to relate with people that have kids.
Becky