Hi Everyone

I haven't been on this message board in a long time. I have been going to face to face. I have been talking to my new friends from Alanon. I have learn alot of things. My husband has gotten his license and in the begin I was very upset about the change. I have learn to deal with it better. I have been working really hard on a control issue over trying to watch what he does. But I now know that he is going to do what he wants and there is nothing I can do to control him.

He has been in recovery for over 90 days. He is getting his pin today. So since I started here he has gotten sober and going to AA and he has some friends that he talks to that helps him.

I been working at my job for 7 yrs today. This is job is a change that I have dealt with. I moved down here from my parents house. This is my first full time job that I have every had. And I didn't think that I would be able to handle having a full time job and now look I have been here 7 yrs. I made it.

I have finally have moved onto step 2 with lots of work. I have know realize if he does go back to drinking I will be ok, because I have set up a nice support system. I got my job where I have set up a family leave if I have to leave my job to deal with stuff. I have 12 weeks. I could go to my uncles in Vegas if I need too. I have my parents. I now have girlfriends in and out of Alanon to help me.

I moved from a place that I lived out for 6 yrs and moved to a much nicer place. I didn't want to move because I don't like to change. But now I am in a nicer neighborhood and it is much safer. I don't have to worry about walking around that any one is going to bother me.

My husband is going to go for a physical with the post office so he is problary going to be getting a job, which is another change. I am hoping with the help of my support system I will be able to handle it. He is problary going to be getting a car which is another thing that I am going to have to deal with.

Thanks all

Becky

Hi Becky,

Wow! You are doing amazing things. It sounds like you have everything on track, and are doing all the things for you.

I am so happy about your husband as well, a 90 day pin is a big deal.

Celebrate your anniversary at work, it is an accomplishment and you deserve to be proud.

Keep taking care of yourself, and keep us up to date on how you are both doing.

                                   Love Jeannie

Becky,

    Congratulations to both you and your a for 90 days in the program.  Sounds like you are really doing well.  Change is very hard but not always for the worst as you have found out.  I am very resistant to change but when it happens I usually do my best to find a way to deal with it until I'm used to the change.  I have always thought that I knew best but maybe I don't.

    Anyway keep up the good work, and keep coming back you are worth it.

Love Holly

I am trying so hard to deal with the changes going on in my life. It is very hard and I spend alot of time thinking on how I can stop the change, but when it happens I try my hardest to work with it.