Today hubby comes home after being gone for almost 2 weeks working out of town. I am happy that he will be home but worried at the same time. We have been talking alot on the phone and he sounds like he is doing better than he was before he left. I am afraid that it all may be a smoke screen. I want to believe in him but with all the promises to quit before I have to wonder now. I keep telling myself time will tell, and one day at a time. My mind tends to go off on its own though and I start getting upset. I do my best to keep myself busy and with 4 kids thats not hard to do but it does little for when I do stop. I know I have a hard time with detaching, trying to but oh so hard to do. Has been easier when he is gone because that way when/if he is drinking its not right there in my face. I suppose all I can do is wait and see what this weekend holds. Thanks to all that have let me get my thoughts out there. I'm not used to sharing my feelings/thoughts with strangers, so thanks for listening. Have a blessed day!
Feather
dot said
May 5, 2005
Hi feather - Glad you here. When the a promises something he usually means it at the time - he's not a bad person - but the alcohol gets in the way and he no longer has control.
Al-Anon taught me to pay attention to his actions - not his words.
Keep coming back. Take care of your self and the kids and do something nice for you everyday.
Love and hugs - Dot
lin0606 said
May 5, 2005
No point in letting worry about what may happen tomorrow spoil today. If he is sober when he walks through that door and you are happy to see him, let yourself experience that joy. One day at a time.
Hello all,
Today hubby comes home after being gone for almost 2 weeks working out of town. I am happy that he will be home but worried at the same time. We have been talking alot on the phone and he sounds like he is doing better than he was before he left. I am afraid that it all may be a smoke screen. I want to believe in him but with all the promises to quit before I have to wonder now. I keep telling myself time will tell, and one day at a time. My mind tends to go off on its own though and I start getting upset. I do my best to keep myself busy and with 4 kids thats not hard to do but it does little for when I do stop. I know I have a hard time with detaching, trying to but oh so hard to do. Has been easier when he is gone because that way when/if he is drinking its not right there in my face. I suppose all I can do is wait and see what this weekend holds. Thanks to all that have let me get my thoughts out there. I'm not used to sharing my feelings/thoughts with strangers, so thanks for listening. Have a blessed day!
Feather