"We" admitted we were powerless over alcohol-- that our lives had become unmanageable.
I was just as powerless over my A's alcoholism as he was, since I had failed in every way I tried to control his drinking. My own life was indeed unmanageable, as I was forced into doing and being that which I did not want to do or be. I tried to manage my A's life, although not even able to manage my own. I wanted to get inside his brain and turn the screws in what I thought was the right direction. I too, was powerless over alcohol. It took me a long time to see this. Alanon is helping me to find myself again. Going to meetings, and sharing my pain/fear/anger/sadness/worry and all the other hosts of emotions that come packaged with this disease, has help me to realize that I did need help. This disease is cunning, baffling, and incidious,,no rhyme or reason for any of it. Keep coming back, it works if you work it,,and you know what YOU are definately worth it! Let it begin with me...............
gardengal
megan said
Apr 25, 2005
Well said Gardengal.
no rhyme or reason for any of it. This no rhyme or reason has save me countless hours of analysis of my A's actions. before alanon I tore my brain to shreds trying to make sense of things. One day the A would say the milk should ALWAYS be on the top shelf, a few days later Why isn't the milk on the fridge door? Over and over all sorts of things that never ever jived and made sense. FOR 13 YEARS!!!!!Boy did I GET SICK!
What an IMMENSE relief to find out that this behaviour is insanity and there is no making sense of it....
Powerless over alcohol and the alcholic. yes, too true. For a long time I tried to control my A but nothing I did worked. Until I found alanon and worked on me. because I can change. and I am changing...
Megan
De Anna said
Apr 25, 2005
Al anon has taught me many things. I am still learning though & always will.
I came to change him, and am changing myself.
After our face meetings we go to lunch. At first I wouldn't, didn't care to go to eat. Then I started to go, for the company, and companionship. How nice it is!
It is wonderful how the more you work it, the more it works for you!
I first came to al anon because I had to, now I come because I want to.
Jeannie said
Apr 25, 2005
Alanon has made me a stronger person. I have always had it in me, but my A had me doubting and second guessing myself. I believed that everything I did was wrong, that I was sone how to blame.
I knew I was not worthless, but I lived as if I was.
Alanon has taught me that I am special and that I do deserve to be happy and that I am intelligent and strong. My husband hates it, he tells me I have an awfully high opinion of myself.
"We" admitted we were powerless over alcohol-- that our lives had become unmanageable.
I was just as powerless over my A's alcoholism as he was, since I had failed in every way I tried to control his drinking. My own life was indeed unmanageable, as I was forced into doing and being that which I did not want to do or be. I tried to manage my A's life, although not even able to manage my own. I wanted to get inside his brain and turn the screws in what I thought was the right direction. I too, was powerless over alcohol. It took me a long time to see this. Alanon is helping me to find myself again. Going to meetings, and sharing my pain/fear/anger/sadness/worry and all the other hosts of emotions that come packaged with this disease, has help me to realize that I did need help. This disease is cunning, baffling, and incidious,,no rhyme or reason for any of it. Keep coming back, it works if you work it,,and you know what YOU are definately worth it! Let it begin with me...............
gardengal
Well said Gardengal.
no rhyme or reason for any of it. This no rhyme or reason has save me countless hours of analysis of my A's actions. before alanon I tore my brain to shreds trying to make sense of things. One day the A would say the milk should ALWAYS be on the top shelf, a few days later Why isn't the milk on the fridge door? Over and over all sorts of things that never ever jived and made sense. FOR 13 YEARS!!!!!Boy did I GET SICK!What an IMMENSE relief to find out that this behaviour is insanity and there is no making sense of it....
Powerless over alcohol and the alcholic. yes, too true. For a long time I tried to control my A but nothing I did worked. Until I found alanon and worked on me. because I can change. and I am changing...
Megan
Al anon has taught me many things. I am still learning though & always will.
I came to change him, and am changing myself.
After our face meetings we go to lunch. At first I wouldn't, didn't care to go to eat. Then I started to go, for the company, and companionship. How nice it is!
It is wonderful how the more you work it, the more it works for you!
I first came to al anon because I had to, now I come because I want to.
Alanon has made me a stronger person. I have always had it in me, but my A had me doubting and second guessing myself. I believed that everything I did was wrong, that I was sone how to blame.
I knew I was not worthless, but I lived as if I was.
Alanon has taught me that I am special and that I do deserve to be happy and that I am intelligent and strong. My husband hates it, he tells me I have an awfully high opinion of myself.
Now I just tell him, you know what I do.
Love jeannie