Hello Debilyn,

I miss you! (((((((((((((debilyn)))))))))) I can't remember if you know about what is going on with my parents? They are moving here to ND by mothers day! Dad is still in congestive heart failure and mom's alzheimers is worse. They are very happy to be living 2 hours north of me. I am still in a state of shock though. This is very stressful for me for some reason. My dad told me a week ago he wasn't moving here. Then a couple days ago mom and dad both called and told me they sold their home. They swapped with my aunt/uncle who I am angry with. The ones that sold that bussiness out from underneath my son not that long ago! I just have mixed feelings here. They are even swapping some furniture! My uncle is also getting my dad's golf cart that looks like a car and is taking over his golf membership. I know dad did it with a clear mind and clear monitary trade. I was concerned about that. My psychologist feels my dad got worn down by my mom obsessing about wanting to live in ND again.  My dad said they are coming to ND  to live out their lives here. :(  That is tuff to hear. Anyway, just wanted to make sure I had told you about this. I feel I may need alot of support in the days to come. And you have always been such a big support to me!  your friend, cdb

I don't know of your situation that well, just hoping things go smooth for you & your family. 

Hmmmm....live out their final days...dad's health, mom's health.   My parents are 76 ish.  Their presence in my life is cherished.  I hope you will see that they are making their choices for this time of their life.  Something we all have to deal w/and face.  I hope you will embrace this time and cherish what you have left w/them.  The ups and downs, the good and bad.   Don't let your past issues of anger get in the way of the quality of stuff you can still have w/them.  I know, it's tough, but you can do it, and the reward of enjoying them will be more important than who gets what, who did what, etc.   The Slogan: THINK  will help a lot here and  Easy..Does It.

Thanks DeAnna & Wallsal for your replies. Yep, I do need to cherish the good and bad. My parents are 74 mom and 76 dad. With both alzheimers and congestive heart failure their personalities change. This is what is hard too. This situation seems to also be a family matter with my hubby and kids. We all are going to have to learn to detatch when needed and not take things personally.   It is hard not to walk on eggshells when they have health problems and they are not themselves and may do things that hurt people that they normally wouldn't do. I guess it is hard to explain. Thanks for your replies and for the tips on THINK and EASY DOES IT. cdb :)

((((((((((Cdb))))))))))))))

Big huggs,  so many emotions hey! I just want you to know that I am still thinking of you and all of your family!!!  I know you are unsure of how you are feeling about your parents moving closer but in the end and when they are nearer it will be nice for you cherish the time you have and make the best of it!!!

Remember the night you got the call about your dad and you were so worried and upset because you couldn't go to him and your mom.... Well now you can...your support and love will confort them and theirs for you!!!

I can only immagine how my mom is feeling about all I have been dealt but for her it is my brother as well!! 

Well all my love and prayers for ALL of your family

JJ

hi, um I am having some pain problems so hard to type. I would think having them closer makes you feel move responsible for them and what that may bring. This is where the old take things as they come and one day at a time come in. It is where alanon skills work with any situation. Don't do more than you can. Do not make yourself sick.Take care of you and do not feel guilty for it no matter what anyone says. love debilyn