Thank you all for your kind words and support. It is over there will be no trial , thank God. It was overwhelming to say the least , when I walked into that courtroom , sat in front of the judge "alone" while my A had his lawyer next to him. I had exhausted all the means of recieving money to have a lawyer by my side, and with the truth, and documents in hand I went. I also had a round rock which I had in my pocket each and every time I went, small, smooth rock which I had put ODAT on it. That I rubbed each time I started to get upset, or thought I was "losing it" and it would ground me again, to what I was about to say. So this is it,,,bittersweet, and sad on my part, I will recieve the house, and some support. I am grateful for that, now I dont have to worry about a place to live,and I know I can afford this as I make such little amount of money ( I have never had a career, stay at home mom). It is sad for a 31 year marriage to end like this, and if it wasnt for the booze I know we would still be here together. I said in the courtroom, in front of the judge when my A muttered something "That we wouldnt be here if you had gotten help". I am glad I said that. So to all of you thanks from the bottom of my heart, I know I should feel happy, but that is not to be today. One day at a time ...........
gardengal
megan said
Apr 20, 2005
Hello (((Gardengal)
I am glad that you got through this garden gal.
And you get the house - that is a huge weight off of your shoulders.
31 years is a long time. But it is almost impossible to triumph over alcohol, downright imposissible for us, the ones who love the alcoholic.
be extra kind to yourself today, you need it
love,
megan
Christy said
Apr 20, 2005
gg,
I'm so glad you got the house, and I'm so proud of you!!!
Christy
cdb said
Apr 21, 2005
Hello gardengal,
Make sure to give YOU alot of credit for being your own lawyer! Wow, that is an admirable quality you have :) Now is the time you may have an emotional rollercoaster of feelings so please keep posting and coming for support. WE are here for you! A divorce is a loss just like a death. I hope your garden is a comfort for you too. Hold on close to that rock still and keep reaching out. Things will get better! Prayers for you and major hugs (((((((((((((gg)))))))))) your friend in recovery, cdb
Jeannie said
Apr 21, 2005
(((Gardengal)))
I am glad that the court issues are over and you ended up with the house. That should give you at least some peace of mind.
Of course you are not happy about it right now. That is normal. Allow yourself to feel and to grieve, and we are here to offer you love and support as you do that.
While you might not be happy, you should be proud of yourself. You showed courage and strength.
Thank you all for your kind words and support. It is over there will be no trial , thank God. It was overwhelming to say the least , when I walked into that courtroom , sat in front of the judge "alone" while my A had his lawyer next to him. I had exhausted all the means of recieving money to have a lawyer by my side, and with the truth, and documents in hand I went. I also had a round rock which I had in my pocket each and every time I went, small, smooth rock which I had put ODAT on it. That I rubbed each time I started to get upset, or thought I was "losing it" and it would ground me again, to what I was about to say. So this is it,,,bittersweet, and sad on my part, I will recieve the house, and some support. I am grateful for that, now I dont have to worry about a place to live,and I know I can afford this as I make such little amount of money ( I have never had a career, stay at home mom). It is sad for a 31 year marriage to end like this, and if it wasnt for the booze I know we would still be here together. I said in the courtroom, in front of the judge when my A muttered something "That we wouldnt be here if you had gotten help". I am glad I said that. So to all of you thanks from the bottom of my heart, I know I should feel happy, but that is not to be today. One day at a time ...........
gardengal
Hello (((Gardengal)
I am glad that you got through this garden gal.
And you get the house - that is a huge weight off of your shoulders.
31 years is a long time. But it is almost impossible to triumph over alcohol, downright imposissible for us, the ones who love the alcoholic.
be extra kind to yourself today, you need it
love,
megan
gg,
I'm so glad you got the house, and I'm so proud of you!!!
Christy
Hello gardengal,
Make sure to give YOU alot of credit for being your own lawyer! Wow, that is an admirable quality you have :) Now is the time you may have an emotional rollercoaster of feelings so please keep posting and coming for support. WE are here for you! A divorce is a loss just like a death. I hope your garden is a comfort for you too. Hold on close to that rock still and keep reaching out. Things will get better! Prayers for you and major hugs (((((((((((((gg)))))))))) your friend in recovery, cdb
(((Gardengal)))
I am glad that the court issues are over and you ended up with the house. That should give you at least some peace of mind.
Of course you are not happy about it right now. That is normal. Allow yourself to feel and to grieve, and we are here to offer you love and support as you do that.
While you might not be happy, you should be proud of yourself. You showed courage and strength.
Take care of you, be very gentle with yourself.
Love Jeannie