It's to late for my family. It might not be for your's. It's been almost a month now. We still can't believe it happened. We didn't expect it. Although It was a shock, it didn't suprise us how it happened, it suprised us that it did happen. He's gone! We will never see him again on earth. Why? Why wouldn't he/couldn't he stop. It started with a beer. Just a sip from an adult's can when he was a toddler, not often just sometimes. By the time he was a teen it was much more often. Poured into a pop can on the way to school, when he decided to go to school. A little buzz on a Friday night. Why not it was a great way to socialize, meet new people, make new friends. Nothing wrong with that. Everybody was doing it. We met at the home of a mutal friend. He was "partying" with them. We were looking for weed. He was 15 years old, I was17 years old. He asked me for a ride home. He only lived two blocks away. I took him home. We met again a few years later (he was 17 yrs. old I was 19 yrs. old) At the same friends house. My friend and I were looking for a buzz. They invited us in. one was rolling up "a fat one". We sat in the bedroom smoking it together. He reached into his pocket, handed me a bottle of Schnapps. That started a 23 year relationship. that ended in a divorce 4 years ago. We never stopped loving each other. I stopped . He couldn't. I want to help others. I don't want you to suffer the way we suffer now. Maybe I'll write more later. It's very hard. I can't believe the love of my life is forever gone.
cdb said
Apr 8, 2005
Hello ann,
(((((((((((((supportive hugs))))))))))))) I am so very sorry for your loss. For a little bit, I wondered if this was my daughter typing. Seriously. I am not quite sure if your loved one left or what? I will wait until you can post more. All of us here do need alot of support. I will say prayers for you now and until I see you again here. I do hope everything is okay with you. It is late, but I am up and just read your post and will be thinking of you tonight. your friend , cdb
jj said
Apr 8, 2005
((((((((((((((((((Ann))))))))))))))))))
So Sory Ann, I hope that you have love and support surrounding you in this time. I Will send special thoughts and prayers to you and your family tonight and for quite some time.
I hope that you keep comming back as you have touched me in a special way. I see your name and think of my MIL who was a great friend and mom to me. I remember her in a special way as she to was a member of alanon.
Again special thoughts and prayers for you. JJ
debilyn said
Apr 8, 2005
oh ann, wish I could really hug you and let ya cry.
I lost my first husband to alcohlism/death.
Am watching my now husband die too.
I do know how you feel. You wrote a very powerful post.
love,debilyn
Christy said
Apr 8, 2005
I'm terribly sorry for loss. I pray that in time, you'll recall only the good things.
Christy
TLC2 said
Apr 8, 2005
((((Ann)))) I am sooo sorry for your loss.It's a horrible, horrible disease!! Please keep coming back, we're here for you, with lots and lots of TLC.
Jeannie said
Apr 8, 2005
(((Ann)))
Your post brought tears to my eyes. Your pain came through in every word. I am so sorry for your loss.
It is a horrible disease and I hate it, the pain and waste of life that it causes.
His battle is over and he is at peace now. I pray that you can now find your peace, and remember the good times.
Love Jeannie
megan said
Apr 8, 2005
Hello Ann
I am very very sorry for your loss.
Alcoholism is a terible miserable and painful disease.
Thank-you for sharing some background on how you met.
My husband and I went through similar situations. We drank at concerts, drank at parties and now, he just drinks....tries to stop, succeeds, falters, succcombs....a very sad pattern.
Why cannot he just stop? I don't have the answer either.
He is at peace now....
Take care of yourself
Megan
Mark S said
Apr 8, 2005
Ann,
There are things in life that we find out we cannot change, we wish with all our heart that we could...but we can't. Your story may make a difference in anothers life though. Thank you for sharing it. I am truly sorry for your loss.
Mark S
It's to late for my family. It might not be for your's. It's been almost a month now. We still can't believe it happened. We didn't expect it. Although It was a shock, it didn't suprise us how it happened, it suprised us that it did happen. He's gone! We will never see him again on earth. Why? Why wouldn't he/couldn't he stop. It started with a beer. Just a sip from an adult's can when he was a toddler, not often just sometimes. By the time he was a teen it was much more often. Poured into a pop can on the way to school, when he decided to go to school. A little buzz on a Friday night. Why not it was a great way to socialize, meet new people, make new friends. Nothing wrong with that. Everybody was doing it. We met at the home of a mutal friend. He was "partying" with them. We were looking for weed. He was 15 years old, I was17 years old. He asked me for a ride home. He only lived two blocks away. I took him home. We met again a few years later (he was 17 yrs. old I was 19 yrs. old) At the same friends house. My friend and I were looking for a buzz. They invited us in. one was rolling up "a fat one". We sat in the bedroom smoking it toge
ther. He reached into his pocket, handed me a bottle of Schnapps. That started a 23 year relationship. that ended in a divorce 4 years ago. We never stopped loving each other. I stopped . He couldn't. I want to help others. I don't want you to suffer the way we suffer now. Maybe I'll write more later. It's very hard. I can't believe the love of my life is forever gone.
Hello ann,
(((((((((((((supportive hugs))))))))))))) I am so very sorry for your loss. For a little bit, I wondered if this was my daughter typing. Seriously. I am not quite sure if your loved one left or what? I will wait until you can post more. All of us here do need alot of support. I will say prayers for you now and until I see you again here. I do hope everything is okay with you. It is late, but I am up and just read your post and will be thinking of you tonight. your friend , cdb
((((((((((((((((((Ann))))))))))))))))))
So Sory Ann, I hope that you have love and support surrounding you in this time. I Will send special thoughts and prayers to you and your family tonight and for quite some time.
I hope that you keep comming back as you have touched me in a special way. I see your name and think of my MIL who was a great friend and mom to me. I remember her in a special way as she to was a member of alanon.
Again special thoughts and prayers for you. JJ
I'm terribly sorry for loss. I pray that in time, you'll recall only the good things.
Christy
((((Ann)))) I am sooo sorry for your loss.It's a horrible, horrible disease!! Please keep coming back, we're here for you, with lots and lots of TLC.
(((Ann)))
Your post brought tears to my eyes. Your pain came through in every word. I am so sorry for your loss.
It is a horrible disease and I hate it, the pain and waste of life that it causes.
His battle is over and he is at peace now. I pray that you can now find your peace, and remember the good times.
Love Jeannie
Hello Ann
I am very very sorry for your loss.
Alcoholism is a terible miserable and painful disease.
Thank-you for sharing some background on how you met.
My husband and I went through similar situations. We drank at concerts, drank at parties and now, he just drinks....tries to stop, succeeds, falters, succcombs....a very sad pattern.
Why cannot he just stop? I don't have the answer either.
He is at peace now....
Take care of yourself
Megan