I have not been to a alanon meeting for a few years and I am struggling with issues I am having with a family member. I have not had a relationship with him in almost 10 years and do not want to have a relationship with him but the a in my life has a relationship with him and wants me to have a relationship with the family member. As a matter of fact everyone in my family has a relationship with the family member I do not want to associate with except me. I spoke with him this evening and he said some very hurtful things to me and I am very upset and I am having a hard time letting it go. I also think the person I have had a eight year relationship with and married a year ago may be a a as well.
cdb said
Apr 3, 2005
Hello jb,
Welcome back! ((((((((supportive hugs)))))) It is admirable that you are willing to reach out and take a look at your situation in your marriage as well. That is not an easy thing to do. Letting go seems to be a process and does not work for us all the time. I hope you post some more and feel free to give a little more information. The replies here do help alot. your friend, cdb
debilyn said
Apr 4, 2005
good to see ya here.
Hey I will not allow toxic people in my life. My own father is one. I never see him
or hear from him. It makes me sad but he is so phoney and surfacey why bother?
What would make you have to talk to this person? I mean I would not give him a
chance to hurt me. I like me too much. Just walk away. Be polite but walk away.
If he complains, that is his problem. Remember we can only change ourselves.
We have to protect ourselves from evilness, this disease is evil, period. It thrives
on breaking our hearts.
I hope the feeling you have will grace you with the strength to be strong enough
not to be around this poisonous person again.
Much love,debilyn
I have not been to a alanon meeting for a few years and I am struggling with issues I am having with a family member. I have not had a relationship with him in almost 10 years and do not want to have a relationship with him but the a in my life has a relationship with him and wants me to have a relationship with the family member. As a matter of fact everyone in my family has a relationship with the family member I do not want to associate with except me. I spoke with him this evening and he said some very hurtful things to me and I am very upset and I am having a hard time letting it go. I also think the person I have had a eight year relationship with and married a year ago may be a a as well.
Hello jb,
Welcome back! ((((((((supportive hugs)))))) It is admirable that you are willing to reach out and take a look at your situation in your marriage as well. That is not an easy thing to do. Letting go seems to be a process and does not work for us all the time. I hope you post some more and feel free to give a little more information. The replies here do help alot. your friend, cdb