When I came to alanon, I thought that it was a program to help me help my alcoholic stay sober. Imagine my surprise when I discover that it is a program to help me help me. Did I need help? Now that my alcoholic is sober, everything is fine, right??? Wrong!!! I was married to my alcoholic for eleven years before he became sober and in recovery, and that's eleven years of wreckage that needed to be healed. It doesn't happen overnight either. As I hear many people say in the chat room, this program is a process not an event. I came to alanon thinking I was going to help my alcoholic and I ended up helping me. I am not the same person that I was when I joined. I was afraid of the steps at first because I had been used to put- downs and criticism all my life. I was never what I should be in other peoples eyes. I didn't want to beat myself up anymore. I have discovered through working the steps that I am not a bad person, in fact, I am starting to like myself. I have worked past my victim status and found a person with courage and strength. I stay with this program because this is progress not perfection. That's why I keep coming back....for support, for courage, and the love of people that won't judge me but accept me for who I am and who I will become. Thank you all for this wonderful program. Bob6502 aka SenoraBob.
megan said
Mar 24, 2005
Yes, progress not perfection Senora Bob.
I see the changes in myself and my life too.
I am no longer the victem, I am moving towards independance in many things.
I use the alanon tools daily in my life.
I too did not know that alanon was going to be "for me" I couldn't be more delighted with the program
debilyn said
Mar 24, 2005
Glad you are here. I like the process thing. It sure is. keep coming back! love,debilyn
david62 said
Mar 25, 2005
Buenos Dias, SenoraBob!
Amen my friend...Alanon has changed who I am as well...Tired of being a victim...Tired of being a doormat...Tired of being Good Ole Dependable Dave.... Tired of being taken for granted...Just plain damned Tired of being Tired!!!!!!!
It works if you work it...believe!
I love alanon....and i love you ....ALL of you!
Thanks for the share Bob.....so glad you are here!
Yours in Recovery,
David
dot said
Mar 25, 2005
Hi Bob - Welcome and thank you for a great post with lots of good stuff.
Love and hugs - Dot
Yes, progress not perfection Senora Bob.
I see the changes in myself and my life too.
I am no longer the victem, I am moving towards independance in many things.
I use the alanon tools daily in my life.
I too did not know that alanon was going to be "for me" I couldn't be more delighted with the program
Buenos Dias, SenoraBob!
Amen my friend...Alanon has changed who I am as well...Tired of being a victim...Tired of being a doormat...Tired of being Good Ole Dependable Dave.... Tired of being taken for granted...Just plain damned Tired of being Tired!!!!!!!
It works if you work it...believe!
I love alanon....and i love you ....ALL of you!
Thanks for the share Bob.....so glad you are here!
Yours in Recovery,
David