of anything that helps an a through detox? My husband, God love him, is trying to quit. He still says that he doesn't think that AA would help him.......and I have learned enough in Al Anon to know that I can't force it. Hopefully, he'll get there when his HP/God wants him to.
He was medically detoxed this summer, his choice, but he was back to drinking in about 3 months.
He tried to go a day and a half of not drinking, but he got so sick that he went and bought some more. He is remorseful (maybe?) and asked me if I knew of anything that helps through a detox. I told him I thought I had heard of pills, or something, but wasn't sure.
Does anyone know of anything, prescribed or not, that helps with the horrible symptons of withdrawal?
debilyn said
Mar 19, 2005
I cannot imagine any doctor giving him meds to detox without admitting him to rehab or the hospital.
They can use anti anxiety meds, phenergan for nausea, some give them klonapin.But all these are tapered off and usually only used the first three days. That is how long the physical addiction lasts. Then they have the hardest part, the mental and emotional addiction.
You might get AA literature and leave it around. But sadly without some kind of program his chances to stay sober are slim to none. They have a disease whether they use or not. Drinking is just a symptom of the disease.
It is recommended when they get passed detox to be in rehab for 3 to 6 months. But sadly most programs, in house ones are only four or so weeks, if that. But then AA recs. 90 meetings in 90 days. I tell you AA works. If both of you are living a program of recovery it is estimated 80% of those marriages my work.
You are right, he has to choose to do it. If he is asking for drugs, he is not ready to stop. When he goes back to rehab, comes out and goes to AA, then he may have a chance.
My A stops drinking or using all the time. But never gets back on his program. I know when I see him back to AA he is serious.
But I stay out of it. I don't even want to talk about it. It is his disease not mine. He is so much more than his disease.
You love your husband a lot. I am so sad he has this horrible disease. I am glad you are in alanon.It will save you. I pray he allows himself to go to AA. But the disease is stong and stopping him....
Love,debilyn
megan said
Mar 19, 2005
I feel for you. my A has quit 2x now, by himself and the withdrawal is awful and can be lethal.
He had no program and relasped...
I do not know about any drugs, I am sorry.
Lucy2 said
Mar 19, 2005
Cah, I don't know of any drugs ...but you said, "trying to quit". I have always heard that when a person says they are trying...it means "no or not", because it always leaves a door open to go the opposite way. Trying is another word for denial...Until an Alcoholic is in a 12 Step Program, their chances of recovery are slim. Only he can decide when he is ready...his HP is ready...but as with all of us.....we have to surrender. We are all so powerless over the pronouns (people, place, and things) in our lives. If nothing changes, nothing changes. But if one thing changing...it changes everything. Ala-non step and traditions...help us change our attitudes and thinking....we can be restored to sanity...learn to detach with love...and allow natural consequences to occur.
Take what you can use and leave the rest...and please keep coming back!
Your friend in recovery..
Love,
Lucy2
abbyal said
Mar 19, 2005
Your husband knows what to do for help , he can go to a clinic or detox centre , don't let him drag u into finding out how to help him get sober he knows how. This is his trip , step aside and let him find his own way. Sounds harsh i know but sounds to me like another way of making you responsible for his not stopping , find me something ???? your not responsible for getting him sober . Cunning , baffling and powerful describes this disease pretty well I think and they are 3 words I have a great deal of respect for today. You have taken time to come here and post which gets u off his back and busy solving his problem, again.
cah said
Mar 20, 2005
Thank you all for replying. And since I have been in Al Anon for little over a year now, I know that this do not mean that he's serious about quitting, or that he'll be able to stop without a program or support. As painful as it is, I know reality, and know that even if he stops, even if he finds support or AA, he may and probably will relapse a few times.
But Al Anon has also taught me to be compasionate toward him, so I do listen to him and 'help' (within my boundaries) when I feel it is appropriate. Which is better than going with the feelings of resentment and anger, which as so eay to give into still.
wallsal55 said
Mar 21, 2005
Yes, I have heard of docs prescribing meds to help with the shakes..... However, many will reject AA (a medicine) even when released at the mere mention of it. Your best bet, would be a group of AA members to come to the house to see him/her and talk. They work wonders in getting someone to a meeting!. If the individual is willing and open, this can work. If the individual is still resistant, then you probably have done all you can. Good Luck and I will pray for you.
Jam said
Mar 24, 2005
He needs medical treatment..He cant do it own his on.It's dangerous.
AA is his best hope.Al-non is yours.
There's a fine line sometimes between compasionate,and enabling.
of anything that helps an a through detox? My husband, God love him, is trying to quit. He still says that he doesn't think that AA would help him.......and I have learned enough in Al Anon to know that I can't force it. Hopefully, he'll get there when his HP/God wants him to.
He was medically detoxed this summer, his choice, but he was back to drinking in about 3 months.
He tried to go a day and a half of not drinking, but he got so sick that he went and bought some more. He is remorseful (maybe?) and asked me if I knew of anything that helps through a detox. I told him I thought I had heard of pills, or something, but wasn't sure.
Does anyone know of anything, prescribed or not, that helps with the horrible symptons of withdrawal?
I feel for you. my A has quit 2x now, by himself and the withdrawal is awful and can be lethal.
He had no program and relasped...
I do not know about any drugs, I am sorry.
Cah, I don't know of any drugs ...but you said, "trying to quit". I have always heard that when a person says they are trying...it means "no or not", because it always leaves a door open to go the opposite way. Trying is another word for denial...Until an Alcoholic is in a 12 Step Program, their chances of recovery are slim. Only he can decide when he is ready...his HP is ready...but as with all of us.....we have to surrender. We are all so powerless over the pronouns (people, place, and things) in our lives. If nothing changes, nothing changes. But if one thing changing...it changes everything. Ala-non step and traditions...help us change our attitudes and thinking....we can be restored to sanity...learn to detach with love...and allow natural consequences to occur.
Take what you can use and leave the rest...and please keep coming back!
Your friend in recovery..
Love,
Lucy2
Thank you all for replying. And since I have been in Al Anon for little over a year now, I know that this do not mean that he's serious about quitting, or that he'll be able to stop without a program or support. As painful as it is, I know reality, and know that even if he stops, even if he finds support or AA, he may and probably will relapse a few times.
But Al Anon has also taught me to be compasionate toward him, so I do listen to him and 'help' (within my boundaries) when I feel it is appropriate. Which is better than going with the feelings of resentment and anger, which as so eay to give into still.
He needs medical treatment..He cant do it own his on.It's dangerous.
AA is his best hope.Al-non is yours.
There's a fine line sometimes between compasionate,and enabling.
Self Detox so often is a trick to buy time..
I say this all in love.