Hi,

I need to know how I can support m husband who is trying to quit throug aa.

Here are some things that are available to you:

Read some books (at the library; free) like Courage to change one day at a time in al anon;

Paths of recovery; Getting them sober; How Al anon works

You can attend open AA meetings; you can attend f2f meetings in al anon too.

Through the meetings; the books; you will find guidance.  Glad he's trying to quit; now what are you doing for yourself? 

Hi Onerugrat

I like your screen name, it's cute.

I agree with Babs about reading the literature and going to meetings.

You should also consider going to Alanon meetings for you.

It's great that your husband wants to get help, but don't forget about you.

Best of luck to both of you.

                             Love Jeannie

Hi

Thank you for the info. You say I should do something for me but What I really want is for him to be successful and that would do so much for me. He knows that he needs to and says he doesnt like himself when he drinks but a little stress and wala he turns to the drink. He is attending AA as I told him if this continued I would leave him. How many people are successful who really try to quit?

Thank you Onerugrat

Hello onerugrat,

I am not sure on the statistics. I do know everyone is different with different sobriety outcomes. My 20 year old alcoholic daughter went to outpatient treatment a year ago and now currently is in inpatient treatment.  She and her behaviour has taught me that alcoholism/drug addiction is not an easy disease to just get over or quit doing. She actually has cravings for alcohol and drugs which can be very difficult for her. It is not her fault she has this disease. It is in our family history. I have learned to have compassion for her and the disease while making boundaries for myself on how much of it I will put up with. I have learned so much about the disease from this chatroom and message board in addition to face 2 face meetings. I also went to an open AA meeting before which really opened up my eyes to the disease. It is also a family disease. We get caught up in the drama and crisis of it too and at times do not see things clearly or think clearly. That is why it is important to take care of us and not make any sudden decisions. At least this is what I have learned. Do try and come into the chatroom for meetings or open chat and when you do, you will hear other's situtations that may or may not be similiar to yours. You could also call an alcoholic treatment center and find out if they know any statistics. Keep on posting and keep on coming here. cdb