Thanks tom canadian guy for your recent post concerning advice giving.
i too was feeling concerned that this board was becoming a " let me tell you how to do right'' tool.
but, then my eyes caught the caption at the top of the message board written under Miracles in Progress............,
''THE MATERIAL PRESENTED HERE IS NOT AL-ANON CONFERENCE APPROVED LITERATURE. IT IS A METHOD TO EXCHANGE INFORMATION, IDEAS, FEELINGS, PROBLEMS AND SOLUTIONS ON A PERSONAL LEVEL.''
i have learned something from every post i have read here.
God, grant me the serenity to accept the things i cannot change, the courage to change the thing i can, and, THE WISDOM TO KNOW THE DIFFERENCE.
Blessings, jewely
Friendofyours said
Mar 11, 2007
I don't get the point of this post. Was it just an add on to Canadian's post??? *scratching head*
Breakingfree said
Oct 6, 2024
I miss Canadianguy and so many of the olders. Its hard to come here, but I certainly need it!
Ruby Grace said
Oct 15, 2024
Ive been trying to get a real answer to a real question for weeks now. Created my own post about it because nobody was responding to my response posts.
So I will try once more.
I personally am tired of my so-called healed & whole friend going on and on about how great AlAnon is and you need alanon yadda yadda yadda when she has been going for 18 months and her blaming everyone else but herself for her own behavior is at the absolute worst! Its like she found an entire tribe of people that are giving her permission to take zero REAL responsibility for her actions and then keeps reassuring her and enabling her to deflect personal responsibility for what she has done to myself and others all in the name of her not having to be blamed or accept the negativity anymore
Its truly nauseating.
Shes still a liar, a manipulator and a truly wretched narcissist and now she has this program to defend her actions.
She blames her parents, her three ex-husbands, me, and other people for the way that she is.
Is this REALLY what your program teaches?
bud said
Oct 20, 2024
Ruby Grace,
No, for me AlAnon is my saving grace that continues to teach me honesty, compassion, kindness, humbleness, self-love, boundaries, take responsibility for myself and my actions. It provides me the tools and support to make changes that improve my life and those around me. It is my thought that everyone deserves dignity.
It doesn't sound like your friend is working the program as I have come to know it. Each meeting is different. It took me a while to find which groups felt more supportive to me than others. Please see my response to your other post.
i too was feeling concerned that this board was becoming a " let me tell you how to do right'' tool.
but,
then my eyes caught the caption at the top of the message board written under Miracles in Progress............,
''THE MATERIAL PRESENTED HERE IS NOT AL-ANON CONFERENCE APPROVED LITERATURE. IT IS A METHOD TO EXCHANGE INFORMATION, IDEAS, FEELINGS, PROBLEMS AND SOLUTIONS ON A PERSONAL LEVEL.''
i have learned something from every post i have read here.
God,
grant me the serenity to accept the things i cannot change,
the courage to change the thing i can,
and,
THE WISDOM TO KNOW THE DIFFERENCE.
Blessings,
jewely
No, for me AlAnon is my saving grace that continues to teach me honesty, compassion, kindness, humbleness, self-love, boundaries, take responsibility for myself and my actions. It provides me the tools and support to make changes that improve my life and those around me. It is my thought that everyone deserves dignity.
It doesn't sound like your friend is working the program as I have come to know it. Each meeting is different. It took me a while to find which groups felt more supportive to me than others. Please see my response to your other post.